Haven't Done This In a While

Discussion should include supportive responses.

Moderator: Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

Haven't Done This In a While

#1

Post by 1-up Salesman » Fri May 06, 2011 7:41 pm

Edited.

User avatar
Chewtoy
Member
Member
Posts: 27
Joined: Mon May 02, 2011 7:38 pm
Location: I live in my Minecraft world.

#2

Post by Chewtoy » Fri May 06, 2011 11:33 pm

I'm going through the same thing. I have a friend that I treat like a brother. He comes from a very bad family and has fallen victim to drugs and constant fist fights. I need to be there for him to stop this. That's why I have to be his family, because his doesn't care. But things have been happening... And I think our brotherly bond has been split. I wonder constantly if he thinks of me as his family or not...

User avatar
LOOT
Banned
Posts: 22937
Joined: Mon May 28, 2001 1:00 am
Location: full time jail

#3

Post by LOOT » Sat May 07, 2011 12:17 am

1-up Salesman wrote: There's some stuff that I don't really know if I feel comfortable about talking about on here, but I'll just leave it at this- have you ever been "friends" with someone, and you really cared for the friend, I mean REALLY cared for the friend, and been unsure of how they feel about you?
Is this a crush

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

#4

Post by 1-up Salesman » Sat May 07, 2011 12:18 am

Edited.

DarkZero
Member
Member
Posts: 35598
Joined: Tue Oct 02, 2007 2:15 pm
Has thanked: 221 times
Been thanked: 832 times
Contact:

#5

Post by DarkZero » Sat May 07, 2011 12:20 am

1-up Salesman wrote:have you ever been "friends" with someone, and you really cared for the friend, I mean REALLY cared for the friend, and been unsure of how they feel about you?
D'aww, I care for you too, 1-up. =P
shane nuked my best posts

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

#6

Post by 1-up Salesman » Sat May 07, 2011 12:23 am

^ NNNNOOOOOOOoooooooooooo

GET AWAY FROM ME

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

#7

Post by 1-up Salesman » Sat May 07, 2011 11:18 pm

So...huh.

Weird talking about. Anyone else want to say anything before I keep going on and on?

User avatar
Apollo the Just
Member
Member
Posts: 16253
Joined: Mon Jun 19, 2006 3:37 pm
Location: Piccolo is Gohan's Real Dad
Has thanked: 222 times
Been thanked: 350 times
Contact:

#8

Post by Apollo the Just » Sun May 08, 2011 12:09 am

If there is ONE thing I have learned, it is that if you don't tell the person how you feel, you will never know how that person feels.

Don't try to play games or do the "send a friend to get info for you" or that crap. If you say it or ask straight out it shows that you're being up-front and honest and that the person is important to you. So if you REEEEAALLLY like this friend, let the friend know this. And even if the friend doesn't feel the same way, it won't ruin your friendship. It will just give you closure on something that's been worrying you for a long while.
I believe in second chances, and that's why I believe in you.

User avatar
Deepfake
Member
Member
Posts: 41808
Joined: Sun Aug 18, 2002 1:00 am
Location: Enough. My tilde has tired and shall take its leave of you.
Has thanked: 107 times
Been thanked: 47 times
Contact:

#9

Post by Deepfake » Sun May 08, 2011 12:54 am

Yeah. I told her that my door was open and I was willing if she felt at all similar.

We're married now, btw.

I should mention, though, that if you aren't hells of smooth like I am, you might wreck up that nice friendship you've got. Point in case, if someone can't get over the "hey you are pretty jawsome let's makeout" factor between you two, they're probably loaded with bs preconceptions and might be a huge hassle, anyway.
I muttered 'light as a board, stiff as a feather' for 2 days straight and now I've ascended, ;aughing at olympus and zeus is crying

User avatar
LOOT
Banned
Posts: 22937
Joined: Mon May 28, 2001 1:00 am
Location: full time jail

#10

Post by LOOT » Sun May 08, 2011 3:09 am

1-up Salesman wrote:^uuuuhmaybeyesnomaybe
Okay then yeah I've been on this path before.

By the way for all you know said person could be fully aware about your feelings. The longer you wait the more it kinda tears the two of you. So, yeah, let that haunt you and make you want to get it done right away. Cause even if it's not true, hey, you got it over with.

User avatar
Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds
Administrator
Administrator
Posts: 34048
Joined: Sat Jul 15, 2000 1:00 am
Location: Forteresse de Valois
Has thanked: 59 times
Been thanked: 44 times

#11

Post by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds » Sun May 08, 2011 3:27 am

The only way to find out how they feel is by talking to them, not us. ;) We don't know how they feel any more than you do. So if you think you have feelings, you'll need to have a discussion with that person about those feelings and if they are reciprocated. Good luck!
Nonsense, I have not yet begun to defile myself.

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

#12

Post by 1-up Salesman » Sun May 08, 2011 4:01 pm

Thinking about this; thanks a bunch for the advice, and please continue if you have more. I appreciate it. :) A lot.

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

#13

Post by 1-up Salesman » Thu May 12, 2011 5:49 pm

Edited.

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

#14

Post by 1-up Salesman » Thu May 12, 2011 7:55 pm

Help?

User avatar
Jere
Member
Member
Posts: 5595
Joined: Wed May 28, 2008 2:25 pm
Location: South Lapland
Been thanked: 4 times
Contact:

#15

Post by Jere » Thu May 12, 2011 9:17 pm

I think you have to have some fingertip feeling on this one, thread carefully, don't make stupid mistakes and so on.
Beep Boop absolutely not a bot!

User avatar
Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds
Administrator
Administrator
Posts: 34048
Joined: Sat Jul 15, 2000 1:00 am
Location: Forteresse de Valois
Has thanked: 59 times
Been thanked: 44 times

#16

Post by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds » Thu May 12, 2011 9:38 pm

Just be honest. Don't lay it on too thick (now is not the "marriage and babies" time, now is the "I have strong feelings for you and would really like to try a relationship" time). It's okay to be nervous. It's okay to make mistakes in what you're saying as long as you're just trying to say things from the heart. If it doesn't work out, just nod and tell them you need to have a little time to deal with your emotions. Your friendship isn't automatically over just because you wanted to try dating. You'll do fine. :)
Nonsense, I have not yet begun to defile myself.

User avatar
1-up Salesman
Member
Member
Posts: 4493
Joined: Sat Apr 19, 2008 8:40 pm
Location: ar can saw
Been thanked: 2 times

#17

Post by 1-up Salesman » Fri May 13, 2011 7:57 pm

Edited.

User avatar
Speed
Member
Member
Posts: 3772
Joined: Sat Aug 27, 2005 1:00 am
Location: The Wasteland

#18

Post by Speed » Fri May 13, 2011 8:52 pm

Listen don't worry, I've been there and recently too.

Just think of it this way, you're way more likely to regret not doing it then you are to regret doing it.

User avatar
Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds
Administrator
Administrator
Posts: 34048
Joined: Sat Jul 15, 2000 1:00 am
Location: Forteresse de Valois
Has thanked: 59 times
Been thanked: 44 times

#19

Post by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds » Fri May 13, 2011 10:54 pm

Things always seem bigger than they really are when you're worrying about them!
Nonsense, I have not yet begun to defile myself.

User avatar
Apollo the Just
Member
Member
Posts: 16253
Joined: Mon Jun 19, 2006 3:37 pm
Location: Piccolo is Gohan's Real Dad
Has thanked: 222 times
Been thanked: 350 times
Contact:

#20

Post by Apollo the Just » Sat May 14, 2011 1:18 pm

GO FOR IT BRO.

*cheerleader pompoms*
I believe in second chances, and that's why I believe in you.

Post Reply