Living together before marriage - thoughts?

[Marilink]

What I meant is that we're given Faith (and the forgiveness that comes with it) by the Holy Spirit alone. If there's someone who's mentally incapable of remembering that, we can pray that the Holy Spirit does his work despite that.

[ZeldaGirl]

And ZG, I gotta say, that was very clear and well said. I might disagree with you at the heart of the matter, but if you have that much confidence in your own choices and decisions and if they're bringing you that much peace, I think it'd be wrong of me to refute you.

what is this, rational conversation


stop that

[Pyropunk]

I know this is from forever ago pretty much so, BUT...

Jer and I have been living together since about a week after we first met each other offline the first time. Long story short, we met on a site, talked online for about 4 years. When we met each other, it was kind of... we knew. We've never in our relationship had a straight up "fight". We may disagree about a few things here and there, but it usually ends up in laughter and agreeance on a new thing. If we had the finances to go to city hall, we would have eloped a few years ago, but we've been happily dating and living together for just about over three and a half years and honestly? We wouldn't change a thing. I do get the occasional feeling of guilt from my religion standpoint, but when I pray about it and really think about it, it's us. There is no other person, we are for each other one million percent and would not have it any other way. Us living together if anything has created a much greater bond between him and I then any other person I have ver dated, and it has really allowed us to grow as individuals, a couple, and creatively, religiously, and healthwise. It's weird and hard to explain sometimes, but even when we finally get the finances to get married, I don't think it will change a thing other then our name and relationship title. :)

[scarletgirl44]

For my thesis, part of my research included investigating these statistics. Most show that couples living together before marriage can be detrimental to a relationship, leading to a breaking off of the relationship before marriage, or the marriage being at an increased risk for divorce. But new trends also show that couples who cohabit with the intention of marrying soon, and only cohabiting for a short time while having a strong commitment to one another have the same success rate as couples who wait to live together until they are married.

So, my question is this - what are your personal thoughts on the topic? Is it right? Wrong? Is there a gray area?


This may or may not be a personal question...>_>

My thoughts are very simple, it ALL depends on the couple, being if they REALLY LOVE one another, and i mean REALLY & TRULY not just lust LOVE where they LOVE one another for the Bouncy-Bouncy, then NOTHING short of GOD himself can break that bond !!! BUT if you just have lusty LOVE your there ONLY for that reason so its VERY easy to break it off being you will find the most pettest & stupidest things to put a wedge between the couple, for me i REALLY dont care if i do live before or after so as long as i know im in LOVE & my WIFE LOVES me !!! as simple as that !!! in tis reguard LOVE is truly the answer here !!!