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My Mother

Posted: Mon Jul 22, 2013 2:53 pm
by Random User
So for years now I have held nothing but distaste at my mother's immaturity and stupidity. Finally, now that I am 18, I got to move out. To my dad's, since none of my friends wanted to have me as a roommate it seems, but hey, it's an improvement. So I come home to grab all my games and other such possessions only to find my mother had sold off my 360 and Wii, along with all games I had for both. Games that I paid for. I wouldn't have minded the consoles, but I lost at least half of my collection of 90 or so games without so much as a single penny paid to me in return. On top of that, she thieved money I was gifted for my graduation. Why does she need this money? Because she throws all of hers out the window buying stupid things like a new tattoo or a damned pop corn machine.

Actually, on top of the popcorn machine, she blows tons of money on sports accessories and fan stuff, jewelry, a couple new laptops for herself, a snow cone maker, deep-fryer, and god knows what else. She could barely pay her cable bill (again), hence why all my games are gone now.

Oh yes, but how dare I get mad that a good portion of my worldly possessions are gone. Since I had celebrated my best friend's birthday yesterday instead of signing my service card, I'm apparently "wasting all of my time doing nothing." In fact, my mom always believes that if you have any sort of free time, you are not trying hard enough to succeed in life. Yet whenever she got home while I still lived here, who watched over the little girls while she sat on her ass to watch reality TV? I did. And I never even asked for anything in return. But no, I was always and forever lazy. I'm just as bad as my father, apparently, whom she constantly blackmails with the threat of forcing him to pay child support despite how well he treats the girls and me whenever we're over at his house; him usually watching us so my mom can go and do something else that costs loads of money.

After I get a check for all the money she owes me, I never want to see her damned face again. I hope she rots and festers in the personal Hell she continuously puts herself in.

Posted: Mon Jul 22, 2013 3:09 pm
by ZeldaGirl
I'm sorry to hear that - that's awful.

You might have a case in small claims court; at least recoup some of the money, particularly if you can prove you purchased everything.

Posted: Mon Jul 22, 2013 3:14 pm
by Random User
ZeldaGirl wrote: You might have a case in small claims court; at least recoup some of the money, particularly if you can prove you purchased everything.
Unfortunately, I can't. I have no receipts from anything of the games at this point. :\

Posted: Mon Jul 22, 2013 6:19 pm
by 1-up Salesman
That's terrible. I honestly don't know of any advice I could give that would really help with that situation, but at least you seem to be out of it for now. I hope things are better at your dad's.

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 2:08 am
by b l a n k
Ouch...your mom is the opposite of my mom, whose cheapness has played a critical role in shaping my identity (she never paid full price for anything except marriage and childbirth, so I'm told).

Anyway, from what I've learned with my mom, you could say that moms always expect the best out of their children, which is likely why she's insisting that you do more "productive" stuff than whatever it is you're doing (which I know nothing about) in your free time. But since you've paid for your own games with your own money, that really shows you've got a good work ethic and a great sense of reward. Success in life should be no challenge for you, dude. :)

Bottom line: my advice would be to stand by your ethics, and if your mom is screwing with your money or your possessions, don't be afraid to speak out. You're an adult. You can make your own decisions. You have way more of a voice than you did when you were a kid. Mom is nothing to be scared of. Unless the mom in question is Mama June from Here Comes Honey Boo Boo. :lol:

I hope you'll be able to rebuild your game empire.

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 2:31 am
by Bad Dragonite
If your mom is that bad then you could call child services and have them look over her for possibility of getting your siblings to be in the custody of your father. *pats back* Either way, I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that and I hope it gets better for you and them all.

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 5:23 am
by Kil'jaeden
Be more productive, you can enjoy your riches on your death bed. You can even have a more comfortable bed to die in.

This type of hypocrisy is common in adults, I have seen it before as well. What's yours is theirs and what's theirs is theirs, whether you bought it or not. Everything you do is worthless, everything they do is just great.

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 6:32 am
by Deepfake
That's horrible, man, my commiserations. What games are you missing, mate?

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 7:20 am
by Marilink
Yeah, RU, that is just awful. I have no idea why anyone would think it's okay to sell other people's things, especially things with such sentimental value. I really feel for you.

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 12:12 pm
by Valigarmander
That's terrible, man. She had absolutely no right.

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 1:31 pm
by United Nations
I know people with mothers like yours, but never to this extreme. I never know what to say because she's family but she's ****ty family. I hope things work out in the future. *hug*

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 3:40 pm
by Random User
Thanks for all this, guys. Reading all this has cheered me up quite a bit.
Tunnel Snakes RULE! wrote:That's horrible, man, my commiserations. What games are you missing, mate?
Most notably Wind Waker, Twilight Princess, Brawl, Melee, Paper Mario, PM: TTYD, Ocarina of Time, Majora's Mask, Fallout 3 and New Vegas, Skyrim, and Super Mario RPG.

I used to have an SNES as well, but she sold that a year or so ago. I was okay with it then since she had bought it for me (albeit for my birthday but y'know).

She did the same thing to all my dad's consoles while they were married, so I guess it shouldn't have surprised me so much.

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 5:30 pm
by monstrman
Ouch those are some kickass games. Sorry your mom is a loser :/

Posted: Tue Jul 23, 2013 5:46 pm
by Calamity Panfan
that's really ****ing ****ty, dude

:(

Posted: Wed Jul 24, 2013 2:36 am
by The Missing Link
That really sucks, and it's really a lame thing for your mother to have done. It's very harsh to have people who are close to you completely do dickish things to you and then try to justify that as trying to make you a better person. Because they're not being good people when you do that.

Glad you're away from her now though; at least that'll hopefully be the turn of the tide.

Posted: Wed Jul 24, 2013 9:22 am
by Random User
I learnt today she's 700 dollars in debt. She also makes twice as much as my dad (whom manages to have groceries and all bills paid with a bit extra to spend).

What the hell.

In any case, if she didn't have to depend on my father for groceries, I might've been kicked out of his house today with her blackmailing my dad with child support again.

Posted: Wed Jul 24, 2013 1:58 pm
by smol Kat
Jeez. That kind of attitude REALLY pisses me off.

I know this doesn't help right now, but this kind of bull**** will help you become a better parent/caretaker/whatever you end up doing with your future.

Posted: Fri Jul 26, 2013 6:59 pm
by Apollo the Just
That's horrible and I'm really glad that you're out of her house at the very least.

If you purchase those systems again, let me know and I can send you at least Master Quest or something. Least I can do.

Posted: Fri Jul 26, 2013 7:14 pm
by Tyler
That's terrible, man. Hopefully you'll get every last cent back from her, but the way you described her and what she did makes me doubt it.

At least you're at your dad's now.

Posted: Sat Jul 27, 2013 10:15 am
by Random User
Though it's doubtful I'll get the money for any of the games from her, I kinda wanted to post here a thank you for all of you guys. Not only did you offer a place to vent with condolences, but a few of you guys even went further and decided to send me some games and even new consoles. I dunno if I'm making a big deal out of this or whatever, but I'm extremely grateful to all of you for this. You're all some of the best friends I've ever had.

I owe ya one, VGF.