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Haven't Done This In a While
Posted: Fri May 06, 2011 7:41 pm
by 1-up Salesman
Edited.
Posted: Fri May 06, 2011 11:33 pm
by Chewtoy
I'm going through the same thing. I have a friend that I treat like a brother. He comes from a very bad family and has fallen victim to drugs and constant fist fights. I need to be there for him to stop this. That's why I have to be his family, because his doesn't care. But things have been happening... And I think our brotherly bond has been split. I wonder constantly if he thinks of me as his family or not...
Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 12:17 am
by LOOT
1-up Salesman wrote:
There's some stuff that I don't really know if I feel comfortable about talking about on here, but I'll just leave it at this- have you ever been "friends" with someone, and you really cared for the friend, I mean REALLY cared for the friend, and been unsure of how they feel about you?
Is this a crush
Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 12:18 am
by 1-up Salesman
Edited.
Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 12:20 am
by DarkZero
1-up Salesman wrote:have you ever been "friends" with someone, and you really cared for the friend, I mean REALLY cared for the friend, and been unsure of how they feel about you?
D'aww, I care for you too, 1-up. =P
Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 12:23 am
by 1-up Salesman
^ NNNNOOOOOOOoooooooooooo
GET AWAY FROM ME
Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 11:18 pm
by 1-up Salesman
So...huh.
Weird talking about. Anyone else want to say anything before I keep going on and on?
Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 12:09 am
by Apollo the Just
If there is ONE thing I have learned, it is that if you don't tell the person how you feel, you will never know how that person feels.
Don't try to play games or do the "send a friend to get info for you" or that crap. If you say it or ask straight out it shows that you're being up-front and honest and that the person is important to you. So if you REEEEAALLLY like this friend, let the friend know this. And even if the friend doesn't feel the same way, it won't ruin your friendship. It will just give you closure on something that's been worrying you for a long while.
Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 12:54 am
by Deepfake
Yeah. I told her that my door was open and I was willing if she felt at all similar.
We're married now, btw.
I should mention, though, that if you aren't hells of smooth like I am, you might wreck up that nice friendship you've got. Point in case, if someone can't get over the "hey you are pretty jawsome let's makeout" factor between you two, they're probably loaded with bs preconceptions and might be a huge hassle, anyway.
Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 3:09 am
by LOOT
1-up Salesman wrote:^uuuuhmaybeyesnomaybe
Okay then yeah I've been on this path before.
By the way for all you know said person could be fully aware about your feelings. The longer you wait the more it kinda tears the two of you. So, yeah, let that haunt you and make you want to get it done right away. Cause even if it's not true, hey, you got it over with.
Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 3:27 am
by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds
The only way to find out how they feel is by talking to them, not us. ;) We don't know how they feel any more than you do. So if you think you have feelings, you'll need to have a discussion with that person about those feelings and if they are reciprocated. Good luck!
Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 4:01 pm
by 1-up Salesman
Thinking about this; thanks a bunch for the advice, and please continue if you have more. I appreciate it. :) A lot.
Posted: Thu May 12, 2011 5:49 pm
by 1-up Salesman
Edited.
Posted: Thu May 12, 2011 7:55 pm
by 1-up Salesman
Help?
Posted: Thu May 12, 2011 9:17 pm
by Jere
I think you have to have some fingertip feeling on this one, thread carefully, don't make stupid mistakes and so on.
Posted: Thu May 12, 2011 9:38 pm
by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds
Just be honest. Don't lay it on too thick (now is not the "marriage and babies" time, now is the "I have strong feelings for you and would really like to try a relationship" time). It's okay to be nervous. It's okay to make mistakes in what you're saying as long as you're just trying to say things from the heart. If it doesn't work out, just nod and tell them you need to have a little time to deal with your emotions. Your friendship isn't automatically over just because you wanted to try dating. You'll do fine. :)
Posted: Fri May 13, 2011 7:57 pm
by 1-up Salesman
Edited.
Posted: Fri May 13, 2011 8:52 pm
by Speed
Listen don't worry, I've been there and recently too.
Just think of it this way, you're way more likely to regret not doing it then you are to regret doing it.
Posted: Fri May 13, 2011 10:54 pm
by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds
Things always seem bigger than they really are when you're worrying about them!
Posted: Sat May 14, 2011 1:18 pm
by Apollo the Just
GO FOR IT BRO.
*cheerleader pompoms*