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We've only been dating for two weeks. I've tried to convince him that it's not love, it's just infatuation/a side effect of being in a new relationship, but he's just like, "NOPE."

Should I try to just ignore it for now or keep trying to convince him that he doesn't love me yet?

OR, should I take this as a major red flag and run for the hills while I still have the chance?

If he's over the age of 20, head for the hills.
If he's under the age of 20, immaturity.

Give or take a few years. Maturity isn't a set-in-stone thing.

Also factor in how long he knew you before you guys started dating.

Bomby von Bombsville wrote:If he's over the age of 20, head for the hills.
If he's under the age of 20, immaturity.

Give or take a few years. Maturity isn't a set-in-stone thing.

Also factor in how long he knew you before you guys started dating.

He's 20. lol.

We knew each other for about two months.

That is a bit of a short time to say he's "in love" with you, but it could just be immaturity. It's really something where you have to factor in his entire personality; ie, how seriously he treats the overall relationship.

Some people might take the terminology of being "in love" less seriously than others. To some people, it represents a sacred bond that should never be broken. To other people (myself included), it's just a chemical reaction in the brain that basically causes an attraction to another person that's more emotionally involving than other attractions. How "emotionally involving" it is varies from situation to situation, obviously. So when he says he's "in love" with you, he might just be describing a harmless emotion he's feeling with you at the time, or he might be dead serious about it.

Also, I'm probably not the best person to take advice from when it comes to situations like this, given my general ineptness with romantic relationships.

He said that he can't picture himself without me and that I make him happy.

Is that clingy? He gets all " :( " if I don't text him every few minutes.

Every few minutes?

I would clearly think there's an attachment issue if somebody did that to me every hour.

Now we're arguing because I fell asleep earlier after getting home. I sent him a text, fell asleep, woke up three hours later, no reply, and thought nothing of it. About an hour after that, he's mad, texting me like, "If I don't reply within an hour, that means my message failed, and you should text me again," and he's legitimately pissed off about this. Ugh.

My judgement tells me that this is something to worry about.

He's, self-admittedly, very insecure. He's a nice guy, though he claims the only reason his past relationships failed was either because the girl messed up or because of extenuating circumstances.

He really is a nice guy though, and I like him a lot, so I don't know if this is just something I should overlook or try to deal with.

Without trust it will not end well.

...and he just broke up with me because he said I was being a friend, not a girlfriend, and that being my boyfriend was stressing him out. -__-

At least that's one less thing I have to deal with now.

Weird day, huh?

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

hahaha. I guess that solves that problem. I hope things work out. Guys like that can turn into really great friends after they realize a relationship won't work.

I have a feeling we'll be seeing this guy on the news sometime.

There's no problem needing to be close to one another if you're happy being close, but that's usually something you slide into over time.

I know you broke up, but for futurish advice, try not to make a big deal out of words. They're just words. If he wants to use it, he wants to use it. Maybe he'll find out there are a few other stages in love down the road. If you're both that young, it might take you both a while to really get it, but trying to tell yourself "it's just infatuation" isn't going to help you out. Simply let it happen. Deep love is a bit clingy. Some people are in love with the idea of being in love. It's very intoxicating. It takes a lot of work, though. It opens you up to get pretty messed up.

Pretty funny for a guy to proclaim his love for you and be the one to break up, though. I've had feelings like that, before, however. I came to love my girlfriend more like a little sister, because I had a hard time respecting her insecurities and some of her very rudimentary ideas, and she couldn't handle being open about a lot of it.

Sorry about the breakup.
Dude sounds clingy because of a misunderstanding about love caused by immaturity.
Anyway, sorry.

Yeah, I'd suggest trying to date guys a bit older. They'll hopefully have a better idea of what the hell they're doing. If you're too young to get in the mid-20s or older range, just wait and see if anything interesting comes along until you're not anymore. Got your whole life to be satisfied and confident, a little while longer in the field probably won't hurt.

(sorry young dudes, I know it's hard to get with the womenz enough as is)