I Know My 9-Year-Old Son's 'Type': Pretty Boys With Dark Hair

Kil'jaeden · #61

And Elvis was there to horrify your parents with his gyrations.

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · #62

[QUOTE="Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds, post: 1469680, member: 17429"]Love. Be kind. Be giving. Be gentle, with yourself, and others. Don't get caught up in consumerism. Create. Give value. Listen with empathy and compassion. Stand up for the things that matter. Remember where material things come from, recognise the sacrifices inherent in production. Appreciate the world around you. Take quiet moments for reflection. Keep an open mind. Be ready to help without being taken advantage of. Be strong. Seek knowledge. Seek wisdom. Keep learning. Forgive.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like you'd make a good parent.

Thanks for responding. Is there no type of lifestyle that you wouldn't approve of, specifically? Or would it matter to you if they picked up religion or not?[DOUBLEPOST=1402783301,1402782988][/DOUBLEPOST][QUOTE="Olestradamus is Going 3rd Party, post: 1469716, member: 25415"]Much respect, IRHP.

Since I think it's a better direction for this discussion, and SD's offspring are more than likely to be mine as well: I'd try to teach my kids that you get more respect and a better life by doing things together, for others, and learning to communicate efficiently, and how to identify when they're not being respected and determine why they're not being respected. I'd try to show them that how they are perceived by others does not dictate their worth, and that worth is a take-it-as-you-need-it concept that we attach to things we deem important, and how you can't control what other people value but you can appeal to them for cooperation through empathy. I'd also teach them that fixing problems often makes new problems, and in that you will always be able to find new problems.

For the record, though, as a kid I always wanted to grow up to be the adult who understands kids. As an adult, I eventually came to terms with the notion that I didn't much like being around kids in general when I was younger. Kind of hard to like kids when you didn't like them as a kid. Now that I'm older, I'm only just beginning to really know how to do the things I always wanted to do. I probably always aimed too high or just did things the hard way.

I'd rather adopt a child who needs parents, for what it's worth. People are messed up, and I kind of feel like if I can help just one person sort out such a messy world, it'd be better in the long run.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I was like that, too. I didn't really like other kids/teens. As for aiming too high, I don't think you can ever do that. Even if you fail, you tried. Sounds like a copout, but yeah.

Adopting is a good thing. My dad was adopted. I think everyone deserves to be raised with a decent family. It sucks to have circumstances against you from the very beginning...

b l a n k · #63

[QUOTE="Kil'jaeden, post: 1469859, member: 26719"]And Elvis was there to horrify your parents with his gyrations.[/QUOTE]

Hence "Elvis the Pelvis." They say he was as well-mannered as a boy scout in everyday conversation, but on stage, he sung and danced like the controversial African American performers of the day, among them the funky and also bisexual Little Richard.

Yeah, compared to Little Richard, Elvis was tame.

#64

I think anything major that I could disapprove of (alcoholism and drug abuse, or mistreatment of others, for instance) is covered by the "values" I would teach. Knowledge, strength, and respect for yourself should lead a person away from substances. Love, empathy, and compassion invoke kindness. Not to mention, being around a supportive family should give adequate room to seek guidance and help if things get difficult. There is no single successful approach to mitigating all risks in life. You can't just tell kids, "Don't take drugs," and expect them to be equipped to understand why and make good decisions about their welfare.

And there's nothing wrong with being religious. I don't think all religions are healthy due to the way they are used to justify bad things and the people running them twisting the core ideals, but an individual having faith in the Beyond is a fine quality.

Deepfake · #65

[QUOTE="Kil'jaeden, post: 1469859, member: 26719"]And Elvis was there to horrify your parents with his gyrations.[/QUOTE]
Heh, my folks listened to stuff like Black Sabbath. My parents bought me my MC Hammer and Vanilla Ice tapes, and eventually stuff like Soundgarden and Nirvana when I got into that. There's not a lot of rebelling that comes after that.

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · #66

^^ I see. Well, in the end everyone, the man from the article included, seem to have their children's best interests at heart. I guess we all just can't agree on what the best "best interests" are. I guess that's the best note for me to leave the topic on.

^ As a Vanilla Ice fan you must have been pretty happy when you watched the TMNT film as a kid.

Deepfake · #67

[QUOTE="I REALLY HATE POKEMON!, post: 1469868, member: 18119"]As for aiming too high, I don't think you can ever do that. Even if you fail, you tried. Sounds like a copout, but yeah.[/QUOTE]
I just meant in how long it took me to be happy with my progress or skills. I am unintentionally a sort of modern day renaissance-man and that means I have not dedicated my free time consistently to one outlet, and am arriving at my accomplishments a bit late for my liking. That affects how I see raising a family, because I would like to have the time to dedicate to being who I want before I consider dedicating most of my time to helping a child do the same.

I'm not fond of specialisation, there's a lot of wisdom that can be applied between fields in a simillar manner to how multi-lingual people are better equipped to understand language overall. It's a bit slow-going, though, when your attention is divided already.