Rejection

[Thanous]

What experiences of rejection do you have (relationship wise)?

bored so making a new thread (think thats what they are called)

All right, so for me I have only been rejected once, last thurday actually, and it sucks yeah but, bleh, I got over it. First time I have gone for a nice girl, been wanting to go for it for a while, and the moment felt right but, noooooooope, her exact words were "sorry no relationship" then she walked away. but the good thing about just going for it is that you don't really care when you get rejected.

so what are your rejection stories?

[smol Kat]

My first boyfriend dumped me three days before Valentine's Day.

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[Thanous]

oh damn it sucks when that happens, same thing happened to me with my first gf but it was 3 days after valentines day XD :'(

[smol Kat]

Did you at least get a gift? I didn't :lol:

[CaptHayfever]

First crush had a crush on another boy who liked her back, so good for them, I guess.
Second crush tore up the valentine card I gave her in 1st grade. Years later, she would discover she was a lesbian. Years after that, I would discover she was a lesbian.
Third crush was friendly with me, but I never made a move. We're still friendly. She's now married & pregnant.
Fourth crush was Amanda Bynes.
Fifth crush/first love was Lucky; not gonna repeat that story in this thread.
First girl I asked out without having already fallen for was a friend. She said no. I said cool. We're still friends.
Sixth crush was a friendly acquaintance who took my attraction as a threat & complained to our residence hall director.
Seventh crush turned me down politely, & we're still friendly. She's now married.
First date went great, but she declined a second date saying with the dumb "didn't feel a spark" line.
Several attempted conversations on a dating site haven't really gone anywhere.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

[The Missing Link]

First girlfriend dumped me just after Christmas. Three days later, she was going out with someone else. That was rough.

That said, looking back at the girlfriends I have had, I definitely think I'm luckier where I am now than if I had landed with any of them.

[Apollo the Just]

Confessed to someone I'd had an enormous crush on for more or less a full year about one year ago, and was rejected... it hurt a LOT and got a little complicated, and we both had to take space so she wouldn't feel awkward and I could move on, but now that enough time has passed we are even closer than ever. We're actually living together again [platonically] this year, and it's basically been like a sleepover where we stay up until 3am procrastinating on homework and watching TV shows. Last year was awful on account of the rejection but our friendship if anything has gotten stronger now that everything is on the table and we took the time to come to terms. It gets better lmao

[Calamity Panfan]

i don't really have rejection stories aside from "i liked girl, in some cases i thought she liked me back, she didn't, now we're really good friends"

like of the five girls that have rejected me, I'm hanging out with four in the next few days. Two I'm roadtripping back home with, one I'm spending a good chunk of Friday night with, and another I'm staying in her apartment Saturday night.

[Bomby]

For some reason the first thing I can think of is in the beginning of middle school when pretty much all of my friends except for one pretty much stopped talking to me. But I'm assuming this thread is about romantic rejection.

As far as romantic rejection goes... eh. I'd rather not get into it. Most of my situations have been "I met this girl and I really like her but she has a boyfriend." First girl I asked out said no, then I started acting creepy and yeah. Second girl... well, we kind of were still attached at the hip for like two months but **** crashed and burned spectacularly because I was being an immature little boy. Mmm... let's see... there was this one time where I was really into this girl then she transferred to Cornell, so I don't really think that counts as rejection so much as bad luck. Other than that "rejection" has been just me asking out a girl and her saying no.

But seriously, I hate it when people come up with false excuses. Last girl I asked out said she had a boyfriend. I knew she didn't. Just say you're not interested. I'm not going to hate you for it.

Rejecting other people sucks, too. I'm actually still pretty close with two girls I've rejected before... their boyfriends are always suspicious of me at first though, haha.

[Deku Tree]

I was once rejected by a girl I asked out inadvertently by way of misunderstood pantomime.

[Softguitar]

My first boyfriend dumped me three days before Valentine's Day.

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Ouch... And you didn't get a gift? My ex dumped me on Easter. More chocolate eggs for me now.

[Valigarmander]

There was this one girl in high school (her name was Karen, I posted about her during my first year here) that turned down my proposition, but we stayed friends.

[Deepfake]

I've had maybe one girl say no to going out, from what I recall. Didn't seem like a rejection, more of a "I've got a boyfriend and don't want to be awful" kind of scenario. There was one girl who I was into who was equally interested in me but wanted to wait before getting into a new relationship, I just moved on when she wasn't being consistent. One girl was a total flake but she asked me out in the first place and we broke up with no hard feelings later because she was actually incapable of seeing me, I later found out that she probably was motivated by the fact that I hadn't made a move on her despite not knowing her well or having anywhere private as a young teen.

After that, I exclusively did any breaking up that happened and made sure not to cause any earthquakes. Obviously I married SD at some point, who is both very interesting, intelligent and smokin' hot, and more importantly shares my interests, so I haven't given it any thought.

Just because someone you're attracted to says no doesn't have to mean anything about you, except maybe that you didn't convey yourself in a favorable fashion or you weren't actually compatible at that point in time.

If you don't think you have redeemable qualities enough for anyone to like you, then do something or be something you value and be proud.

[monstrman]

First crush asked her out, we dated for three days and never spoke so she ended it. That was middle school (yay middle school dating?) Second said "you're awesome but i like someone else." She pretty much always liked someone else. Third one dated her for like a year... and then she cheated on me. ...and then she cheated on that guy with another guy. ...and then she cheated on him. All of this occured while she was still dating me and it messed me up p. Bad like to the point of p. Much forcing me out of school for lack of ability to cope. I got better.

Last one is my current girlfriend of two years who i live with

[smol Kat]

Ouch... And you didn't get a gift? My ex dumped me on Easter. More chocolate eggs for me now.

Nope! What's worse is that the next fall I was stupid enough to take him back...only to have him cheat on me.

Moral of story: Don't date exes!

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Third one dated her for like a year... and then she cheated on me. ...and then she cheated on that guy with another guy. ...and then she cheated on him. All of this occured while she was still dating me and it messed me up p. Bad like to the point of p. Much forcing me out of school for lack of ability to cope. I got better.

I remember this. Damn.

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If you don't think you have redeemable qualities enough for anyone to like you, then do something or be something you value and be proud.

Every time I got broken up with, I took up a new hobby. None of them stuck, but...!